Now let me be very clear when I say that writing about this particular event is serving more as therapy for me than as lets say 100% accurate characterization of the man that I stupidly married years ago and managed to create a child with that he regularly uses as a tool with which to manipulate me…..(I say this to hopefully keep the courts from accusing me of bad mouthing him even tho his FOUR VIOLENT FELONIES kinda do that for him).

To get the full story let me quickly fill you in. My ex took a job thousands of miles away based on the fact that he was going “to be making so much money he couldn’t turn it down” (his words not mine) and what has ensued has been the biggest crap storm ever. I never even imagined how wrong things would go once this “man” left our town and headed South, but its gotten ugly. Apparently the move went straight to his head and he decided that now that no one is around to stop him he can fly his abusive flag high and proudly. When my daughter went to see him this summer he treated her like he treats all women that no longer bow to his wishes…like dirt. My poor daughter came home and literally the first words out of her mouth were “I am NEVER going back there for that long again ever”…..and then things got really bad. She ended up in therapy over the crap she had to endure over the summer….to the tune of $156 per session. Meanwhile his child support doesn’t even cover her therapy bills but he tells EVERYONE who will listen how much he helps ME out with money because I can’t manage on my own. I have never asked for more support, I have never requested a review, I have never actually asked him for anything but after seeing what he did to my daughter I decided that he could help pay for her therapy so I requested a review. AND he FLIPPED. See he called the child support office and gave them his financial details (his actual details not the made up ones he presented in court) and the amount they came back with was triple what he pays now. SO he called me and told me he knows he owes more money but asked if we could just come to an agreement. I called child support to find out if that was possible and was told no because he hired a lawyer. I wasn’t concerned because its simple math right? I wasn’t expecting a huge amount but based on the fact I have been repeatedly told he makes six figures a year and original child support (which by the way he was 30,000 in arrears at one point due to multiple felony charges that I wrote OFF and then like a stupid idiot gave him 1/2 his tax return that I intercepted back because he needed it for the felony charge he was battling at the time) was based on a way smaller amount I thought it might go up enough to cover therapy at least. WRONG. Because you see..the thing about felons is they find crooks to cover for them. So this dear sweet man who will tell everyone who listens how well he takes care of his daughter, and what a great dad he is (meanwhile 3 out of his 5 kids are no longer speaking to him and hate him) got his boss to write a letter stating that he was no longer getting commissions or bonuses and that his base salary was all he was going to get from here on out (let’s just ignore the fact that for at least 2 years he has gotten quarterly bonuses and that every lead and manager in the company receive bonuses). THEN his lawyer requested a different court date and FORGOT to mail me the paperwork for the new date. So yesterday we had court, and I had no clue until this piece of human waste calls me and says “nice that you missed court. They wouldn’t even let me talk. Just said you weren’t there, looked at the numbers and decided on an amount.” I could tell immediately that it went in his favor because he wasn’t calling me any of the filthy names he does when he gets mad. I find out later that because his boss lied for him, his lawyer moved the date up (so the bonus he gets paid on Tuesday won’t show up) and the fact that I didn’t show up they LOWERED his support by 50.00 a month. The icing on the cake?? Oh that would be when he told me “I could pay more, I can’t believe they lowered it! IF you are nice to me I will send you extra when you need it, but only if you agree to be nice and coparent with me again.” Moral of the story…Criminals will always be criminals while pretending to be upstanding citizens. Criminals will ALWAYS find other criminals to lie for them, and Criminals will never be anything more than the scum of the earth. Oh and PS incase anyone was wondering…I don’t think abandoning your daughter to go make a crap ton of money and then lying to make sure your support is lowered is actually being a good father. I think it makes you exactly what she already things you are…a piece of trash.

Now maybe I should breath deep and release it all because honestly the amount they lowered it to is so tiny it doesn’t even matter. My inner Karen tho wants to speak to the manager and next week she has an appointment to do just that, cause guess who wasn’t happy to find out about the unethical behavior that went on in his courtroom yesterday??

And now you know why my nickname is Karen. Thanks for listening 🙂

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